Don't get me wrong. Gear is a important but only as a means to an end. But all the tools in the world are meaningless if we don't get appropriate opportunities to use them. But one of the tools we should have in our boxes, and one that is often overlooked, is basic camaraderie.
In my culture (pampered American living in an upscale neighborhood of intact families) we pay lip service and involuntary servitude to the overarching myth that family overrides everything else. That nothing can be more important than family. And I'm sure that's true in its most basic meaning. But we've re-interpreted that, as a culture, to be an imperative that all time must be spent with family. If you have a spare second it should be spent engaged in quality pursuits with our children. If we have an opportunity to travel it's assumed that your spouse will share in the experience (and not via long distance). In truth we've eroded two fundamentally healthy ways to exist. In the first place we've surrendered our ability to enjoyed spending time by ourselves. We feel guilty when we're not including everyone even though we'd really rather have some time to ourselves to read, create or just be a separate human being. According to everything I've read we rebel in our teen-aged years to be able to differentiate ourselves and become individuals........why do we spend our adult years joined at the hip?
In the second place we've lost the ability to create and maintain friendships with groups of like minded people. The photograph above was done in Rome a few years back. These men meet nearly everyday at a little table next to someone's apartment building. They drink, they play cards, they tease each other, they talk politics and they revel in other male company. This easy camaraderie is vanishing in our culture. We've replaced the more intimate surroundings and easy exchange with friends with things like loud and chaotic happy hours and quick texts. Several mental health care professionals have bought copies of the above to display in their offices. They say that it reminds them to remind their clients to work on building healthy networks. Not to further businesses but to further their happiness.
Our interests were aligned in a way that was much different than the uneasy truce that takes place when travelling with a non-photographer partners. We didn't need shared shooting experiences but we did appreciate the easy mix of technical and logistical information sharing mixed with observations about everything from the classic beauty of Italian women to the virtues of the antipasto buffet at Al Grappolo D'oro.
I think photography is a like living life. Too much tunnel vision is boring. The same view every day is boring. The same conversations, boring. Only by stepping outside a uniform construct, even if it's just for a few days at a time, informs us and makes us happier. Just a point of view now that we're getting close to the end of another year. Space. It's the final frontier.
I showed these two images to make the point that being in the right place and being awake to life is much more important than what sort of camera and lens I used. Or how I used it. While it's good to make sure your shutter and aperture are correctly engaged making sure you're happiness and interests are engaged is even more important.
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